1. Do you worry about someone else's drinking, drugging, gambling or sexual behaviours?
2. Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking, drugging, gambling or sexual behaviours?
3. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking, drugging, gambling or sexual behaviours?
4. Do you feel that if the significant other loved you, he/she would change their "problem behaviour" to please you?
5. Do you blame your significant others behaviour on his/her companions?
6. Are plans frequently upset or cancelled, or meals delayed because of the behaviour of the significant other?
7. Do you make threats such as, "if you don't change your drinking, drugging, gambling or compulsive sexual behaviours, I will leave you"?
8. Do you secretly try to smell the drinkers breath?
9. Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking, drugging, gambling or compulsive sexual behaviours binge?
10. Have you been hurt or embarrassed by your significant others behaviour?
11. Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of your significant others behaviour?
12. Have you considered calling the police for help in fear of abuse?
13. Do you search for hidden alcohol, drugs or pornography?
14. Do you often ride in a car with a driver who is under the influence of a substance?
15. Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?
16. Do you sometimes feel like a failure when you think of the lengths you have gone to, to control the behaviour of your significant other?
17. Do you think that if your significant other would only change their behaviour, your other problems would be solved?
18. Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the significant other?
19. Do you feel angry, confused, or depressed most of the time?
20. Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems?

IF YOU HAVE ANSWERED 'YES' TO 3 OR MORE OF THESE QUESTIONS,
THEN YOU ARE BEING AFFECTED BY SOMEONE ELSE'S ADDICTION.